Wedding traditions can be intimidating at first, especially if you’re marrying someone of the same gender. When it comes to true marriage traditions, the same sex does not always apply. However, this does not preclude you from having some fun with it! Simply put, most traditional marriages cannot compete with a same-sex marriage; thus, avoid the traditional path and instead create your own unique experience. Aren’t traditional weddings more likely to be overrated? Why not make your marriage, as a same-sex couple planning to marry, one that is unique, different, and overall more fun and positive for everyone?
WHICH PEOPLE SHOULD ATTEND THE WEDDING?
The bridal party in a traditional wedding between a man and a woman consists of the groom and his groomsmen, as well as the bride and her bridesmaids. However, even in traditional marriages, the “gender-associated parties” are now being mixed and matched. For example, a groom may choose a female as his “best man” and a male as his maid of honor. So, why should we stick to the old school’s rules for bridal party etiquette?
As I previously stated, we are increasingly discovering that gender does not have to be a factor in bridal parties. Many same-gender couples do not have one gender on one side of the relationship and another on the other. Most same-sex couples, regardless of gender, elect their 3-5 closest friends or siblings, and the people in their party are chosen based on how important they are to the couple. If you ask me, I think it’s an excellent idea.
ARE YOU SEARCHING FOR A DRESS CODE FOR YOUR SPECIAL DAY?
Brides have always worn white to their weddings, according to tradition. But what happens if there are two grooms? Is it necessary for one of them to wear white? What if, on the other hand, you have two brides? Is it necessary for both of them to wear white? There is a simple solution in both cases. NO. As a same-sex couple, you are free to dress however you want as long as you look the part. You want to look your best on your wedding day, stand out from the crowd, and have your guests say, “Wow! You both look amazing!”
Same-sex couples nowadays prefer a more personalized approach and avoid the traditional black and white color scheme. You should wear complementary colors, keeping in mind that this is a once-in-a-lifetime event. Most grooms will wear the same suit or use the same color scheme. When there are two brides, one will almost certainly be dressed in a suit and the other in a gown. Finally, there is no correct or incorrect answer; wear whatever makes you happy and comfortable.
WHY ARE YOU RUNNING LIKE THIS DOWN THE AISLE?
In a more traditional wedding reception, the groom and groomsmen would wait at the end of the aisle for the bride and, in most cases, the bride’s father to walk her down the aisle to “give her away.” This “giving away” mentality is very old-fashioned, with the belief that the daughter once belonged to the father but now belongs to the husband, which is an intriguing stance to say the least. So, how do same-gender couples deal with this? Simply put, they walk down the aisle together. Walking down the aisle together demonstrates their love and compassion for one another, as well as their determination to see the wedding through to completion.
WHAT SHOULD BE MY SURNAME?
When a man and a woman marry in a more traditional wedding setting, the bride almost always takes her husband’s surname. When a same-sex couple marries, the decision to change or alter one’s surname is a personal one that should not be imposed on anyone. Changing one’s surname is something that is frequently discussed prior to a wedding ceremony, regardless of sexual orientation, and it really comes down to one’s personal feelings on the subject. Some couples adopt their partners’ names, while others retain their surnames, and still others hyphenate both surnames.
I hope that some of the ideas in this blog will help you plan your wedding.